Therapy and EMDR for Anxiety, Trauma and Overwhelm
For women who are carrying more than anyone realizes.
Therapy and EMDR in Seattle and online across Washington with Iris Hogan, LICSW.
Being capable doesn't mean carrying everything alone.
You’re the person who keeps going.
The one who gets things done, shows up for everyone else, and holds more than most people realize.
But internally, you may feel anxious, emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, or like your nervous system never fully shuts off.
Even during quiet moments, part of you may still feel emotionally "on call."
Using trauma-informed therapy and EMDR, I help women feel calmer, more grounded, and less overwhelmed.
Therapy can become a place where you don't have to hold everything together by yourself.
A Little About Me
I'm Iris Hogan, LICSW - a trauma-informed therapist with 20 years of experience and advanced training in EMDR, maternal mental health, trauma, and anxiety.
Based in Seattle, I provide online therapy for women throughout Washington.
My approach blends evidence-based therapy with warmth, collaboration, and genuine care.
You don't have to show up perfectly here.
You just have to show up as you are.
Therapy for Women Who Feel Like They’re Carrying Too Much
From the outside, many women I work with look calm, capable, and pulled together.
Internally, they often feel mentally overloaded, emotionally stretched thin, and tired from holding so much for so long.
You may find yourself:
- replaying conversations long after they end
- constantly thinking ahead instead of being able to fully rest
- struggling to slow your mind down
- feeling emotionally drained even when life "looks fine"
- feeling like everything depends on you
At some point, many women quietly reach a moment where they think:
“I can't keep doing it like this.”
You're not failing.
Your mind and body may simply be managing more stress and emotional pressure than anyone can see.
How I Help
I offer therapy and EMDR for women in Seattle and throughout Washington who are navigating anxiety, trauma, burnout, postpartum overwhelm, and the emotional exhaustion that can come from holding everything together for everyone else.
Support for women who feel mentally overloaded, emotionally drained, constantly “on,” or unable to fully relax.
Therapy for experiences your body may still react to long after your mind believes you should be "over it."
Support for pregnancy, postpartum overwhelm, birth trauma, shifting identity, and the emotional complexity of motherhood.
A research-supported therapy approach that helps the brain and nervous system process experiences that still feel emotionally stuck or activating.
Extended therapy sessions designed for deeper, focused healing when weekly therapy doesn't feel like enough.
Why It Can Feel So Hard to Slow Down
For many women, anxiety, trauma, or burnout doesn't always look like falling apart.
Often, it looks like continuing to function while quietly running on stress and adrenaline for years.
When you spend so much time being responsible, productive, or emotionally available for everyone else, your nervous system can begin treating pressure as normal - and rest as unfamiliar.
You may notice:
- difficulty fully relaxing
- constantly bracing for what's next
- feeling emotionally reactive or overstimulated
- feeling exhausted but unable to stop
Therapy creates space to slow down and understand what your mind and body have been holding beneath the surface.
A Special Note for Mothers
Pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood can bring tremendous joy, but they can also bring a level of emotional strain that catches many women off guard.
You may find yourself carrying guilt, fear, intrusive thoughts, overwhelm, or a version of yourself that feels unfamiliar.
You may love your child deeply and still miss parts of who you were before.
You do not have to make sense of all of it alone.
When You Need More Than Just Insight Alone
Many women understand their experiences intellectually. The harder part is that their body still reacts as though the stress or danger is happening now. That’s where EMDR can help.
EMDR is a research-supported therapy approach that helps the brain and nervous system process experiences that continue to feel emotionally stuck, overwhelming, or unfinished.
EMDR may help if you:
- feel emotionally reactive in ways that surprise you
- shut down or go numb under stress
- feel like part of you is always bracing for something
- notice certain memories still carry a strong emotional charge
- feel stuck despite years of insight or self-awareness
The goal isn't to overwhelm your system or force you to relive painful experiences.
It's to help your brain and body process what has been held in survival mode so life feels less consuming, less activating, and easier to move through.
As therapy progresses, many women begin noticing:
- less internal pressure
- more emotional clarity
- a growing sense of steadiness and self-trust
We simply start where you are.
Over the past two decades, trauma recovery has remained one of the deepest passions of my professional life.
Helpful Articles for Where You Are Right Now
What to Expect
Therapy with me moves at a pace that feels manageable for your nervous system.
We slow things down, make room for what's been held quietly inside, and work together in a way that feels steady and supportive.
I honor your nervous system and follow its cues - never pushing, never rushing, always working at a pace that feels safe and sustainable.
You don't need to prepare anything beforehand.
We simply begin with whatever you're carrying that day.
You Don't Have to Keep Carrying It Alone
If something here feels familiar, you don't need to be in crisis to begin therapy.
You don't need perfect words.
You don't need to justify why things feel hard.
If something inside you keeps saying: “I can't keep carrying all of this alone,”
that’s enough.